I’m not the biggest fan of celebrity gossip, especially sources that harbor on the negatives, report false rumors in attempts to damage reputations, and serve no other purpose than to tear people down. So last week when I logged on to Necole Bitchie, my trusted resource for respectable insight on the lives of my favorite celebrities, to discover that the founder Necole Kane was saying goodbye to celebrity blogging and subsequently shutting down her website, I was a tad disappointed. However, as a longtime reader, I not only expected that this day would come as Necole has expressed her candid feelings about celebrity blogging in the past, but I ultimately respected her decision to move forward also.
In a broader context, Necole’s story is a reminder that it is okay to give yourself permission to evolve, especially when life becomes stale. That’s not to say that making a transition in life, whether it’s pursuing a new career, ending a toxic relationship, or shifting your everyday way of thinking, is easy. Many times we can find it difficult to make significant changes in our lives because we have grown accustomed to limiting ourselves to others’ perceptions of who we are. We’re all known for something, and that something doesn’t necessarily have to be bad. You may be the best employee on your job. That doesn’t mean that you don’t have other aspirations outside of your daily shift. One of those dreams may very well be to start your own business using the expertise you’ve developed over the years, and guess what? Because it is your life, you’re entitled to make that change when and if you feel like it.
On the other hand, you may be known for something that you’re not so proud of whether you have a spending problem or a flawed attitude that interferes with the success of your personal and professional relationships. Whatever it may be, it does not need to define you. Picture the life you want to live and the legacy you want to leave behind, and do what needs to be done to get you there. This may involve adding to one area of your life while subtracting from another, and the reality remains that not everyone will get what you’re doing or cheer you on in the process. In Necole’s case, I’m sure there have been at least a few people who read her goodbye letter and couldn’t comprehend how she could walk away from a career that she excelled in and profited from. To be secure in your next move, your hope for the future needs to outweigh your reservations about your impending success and your fear of how others may react to the new direction of your life. Make your goals plain, and begin closing the gap between where you are and where you want to be starting today. In the words of Nelson Mandela, “It always seems impossible until it’s done.”